Well… everything is first!
For those who don’t know I lost my colon in 2004 and therefore I have an ileostomy…. It basically means I don’t poop the usual way but my ‘waste’ is collected into a bag stuck on my belly….
Sometimes… unfortunately I have problems with my stoma… nothing big though… but I’ve been dealing with leaks which have caused the skin around my stoma to brake and because of it the bag won’t stick properly… which again… causes more leaks… so I have to take care of this whole thing very carefully so it will heal… Not much to say about that really except… this morning my wife and I went to the mall… We had to be there a little longer than we originally planned …no big deal really as I always have an emergency bag in the car with extra set of cloths and everything needed for my stoma care and more … and of course my poop decided to go the wrong way … again no big deal… shit happens 
So after getting the emergency bag…. I go to the mall’s public toilets… they are actually very nice… but the normal stalls in the men’s room are small… and really not much space to change your clothes or do much of anything other than do your normal thing This is why I normally use the disabled bathrooms… I do have a special card I can wave around if I need to… but I’ve never really had to do that before… nor have I really had any problems or ‘looks’ in the past….
Obviously someone got up on the wrong side of the bed this morning… As my wife and I were walking through the door… inside the bathroom… a woman… maybe in her sixties… shouts up at us… and starts ranting about ‘perfectly healthy people using things that belong to the disabled’ such as toilets, parking spaces and getting disability payments from the government… but this has actually been on the media here a lot recently…
My wife calmly smiled and told her she agreed and wished her a good day… and that was really the end of it… except my mouse heart was beating like crazy….
I know I don’t look sick… or seem disabled (unless maybe when I speak)…. It’s a message never spoken too often…. There are a lot of us out there….
